Lifestyle Design Lesson 1: Face Fear. Live Dreams.

Mark Twain once said, "I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened."

Mark Twain once said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

Four years ago, when I was still living in Auckland, New Zealand. One of my good friends in the flat put up a sign in the 1st floor living room. Face Fear. Live Dreams. All who lived there read that sign. I never really got to ask why my friend chose those words but for us living there, it made good sense. 

All of us become nervous about making that change. We often  put things off out of fear of the unknown. I think I may have a solution that can help us face our fears and move on living the dream we want. I have written down 7 questions that you and I should write down our answers. The rule is that we just write and we do not edit. Our aim is to write as much as possible. So, please spend a few minutes on each answer.

1. Define your nightmare, the absolute worst that could happen if you did what you are considering.

What doubt, fears and “what-ifs” pop up as you consider the big changes you can — or need — to make? Envision them in painstaking detail. Would it be the end of your life? What would be the permanent impact, if any, on a scale of 1-10? Are these things really permanent? How likely do you think it is that they would actually happen?

2. What steps could you take to repair the damage or get things on the upswing, even if temporarily?

Chances are, it is easier than you imagine. How could you get things back under control?

3. What are the outcomes or benefits, both temporary and permanent, of more probable scenarios?

Now that you have defined the nightmare, what are the more probable or definite positive outcomes, whether internal (confidence, self-esteem, etc.) or external? What would the impact of these more-likely outcomes be on a scale of 1-10? How likely is it that you could produce at least a moderately good outcome? Have less intelligent people done this before and pulled it off?

4. If you were fired from your job today, what would you do to get things under financial control?

Imagine this scenario and run through questions 1 – 3 above. If you quit your job to test other options, how could you later get back on the same career if you absolutely had to?

5. What are you putting off out of fear?

Usually, what we most fear doing is what we need to do the most. That phone call, that conversation, whatever the action might be — it is fear of unknown outcomes that prevent us from doing what we need to do. Define the worst cast, accept it, and do it. This is what I learned. I think it is worth repeating and perhaps tattooing in our foreheads: What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do. As I have heard said, a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have. SUGGESTION: Resolve to  do one thing every day that you fear.

6. What is it costing you — financially, emotionally, and physically — to postpone action?

Don’t just evaluate the downside of action. It is equally important to measure the atrocious cost of inaction. If you don’t pursue those things that excite you, where will you be in one year, five years, and ten years? How will you feel having allowed circumstances to impose itself upon you and having  allowed ten more years of your finite life to pass doing what you know will not fulfill you?

7. What are you waiting for?

If you cannot answer without resorting to the previously rejected concept of good timing, the answer is simple: You are afraid, just like the rest of the world. Measure the cost of inaction, realize the unlikelihood and repairability of most missteps, and develop the most important habit of those who excel and enjoy doing so: ACTION.

As I share these questions with you, I will also challenge myself in answering them and posting my answers on the next blog. Perhaps you could do the same and post your comments here and lets share our ideas on how we can develop this habit of action.

Till the next blog. Cheers!

 

Giancarlo G.
Roaming Entrepreneur, Travel Writer, Upcoming #1 Best Selling Author, Creative Designer, Travel Photographer, Extreme Sports Fanatic, Travels with a Little Pig, Goal Oriented and 100% Coffee Addict!

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